High School 20 Years Later

July 27, 2014


Over this weekend we held my 20 year class reunion.  There were some there I wasn't sure that I cared to see and others absent that I wish had made it. My own pondering about my high school 20 years later is this...

20 years ago we were defined by one characteristic, you were a cool kid, you were a loner, you were in quest, you were whatever. 20 years has passed, and while I noticed some of the same people were still hanging out, we have all grown beyond what group we were in back in high school.

Who we were then was defined by what others thought of us, today we are defined by how we view what we feel we have done with our lives. It was ironic to see the juxtaposition of those who were once envied feeling inferior, or those who once feared the popular people so much being some of those most confident and wandered around both nights talking to everyone.

The best part was the change for the better in most everyone. No matter who you were in high school, no matter what you have done since, it mattered not; you simply were someone who was remembered not for what you were, but as someone for the past to reminisce with. At some point we all became a little of everything, a blend of all the different "definitions" of who someone was back in high school.

Maybe John Hughes was a smarter man than we ever realized. To paraphrase him...

We often see ourselves in comparison to how others once saw us, in convenient definitions. But what we found last night is that each one of us is a brain, and an athlete, and a basket case, a princess, and a criminal.

 

Celebrity Death: Not Only Time to Think About Mental Health

February 20, 2013


In light of the recent suicide of Mindy McCready, discussions of mental health, addiction, and suicide have been put in the spotlight.  So often these subjects are only discussed when it involves a celebrity and soon forgotten when the news changes to the next story. The rest of the time, such subjects are swept under the rug or discussed only in passing. 

When the celebrity is discussed, there is generally talk about not understanding how they could commit suicide, or how they could use dr...


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Lessons From a Child

February 5, 2013



My friend Terry told me a story the other day that honestly made me realize the amount of compassion children have in comparison to many adults. 

When Terry’s son, Phil, was young they had an elderly couple as neighbors and the husband passed away.  Being a very religious family Phil asked Terry why when he had gone to heaven and everyone was sad.  Terry was not sure how to answer, but explained it as best he could.  Terry told his son that the widow was sad as she missed her husband and ...


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Killing Childhood to Save the Child

January 26, 2013

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 A 5-year-old girl chats up classmates while waiting for the bus after school. The topic: Playing with a Hello Kitty "bubble gun" that, with the flick of a finger, blows bubbles everywhere.

"I'll shoot you, you shoot me, and we'll all play together," the kindergartner says.

The next day, that remark -- which was made innocently, according to the lawyer for the girl's family, who related the story -- landed the young central Pennsylvanian child in the principal's office.

The story b...


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Acts of Random Kindness

January 26, 2013

With the Acts of Random Kindness movement that came as a result of Sandy Hook, many individuals made a New Year’s resolution to pay it forward.  I, and many of my friends, have done small things. A woman at the grocery store couldn’t pay for something, so I offered to pay for it.  My friend, Doug, wrote a Facebook status, and the first 12 people that commented on it are getting small gifts: something made with love, or shows that he cares. While the amount of meaning and hope that is crea...


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Set Resolution a New Way for the New Year

January 26, 2013

 

 New Year’s is just a few days away, and so we are all starting to think about those New Year’s resolutions that we feel pressured to not only make, but to make some grand thing. The bigger the resolution that is set, generally the quicker that resolution is cast aside and we feel bad that we didn’t keep that resolution. Conversely, there are also those resolutions that are so vague it is impossible to know if it is kept, and so again we feel as though we have failed, or we excuse away...
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Treating the Cause not the Symptom

December 2, 2012

 

Turn on any television station and watch for 30 minutes, and you will most likely see at least one commercial which is for a medicine to treat depression, anxiety, or ADHD.  Of course the companies are trying to sell their product, this isn’t a huge surprise; just as McDonald’s advertises the Big Mac or Denny’s the Grand Slam, the companies want the public to use their new product.  It isn’t just television where I see this happening; I also hear it from medical professionals as well...


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Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right

August 20, 2012

Rep. Todd Akin, the Republican nominee for Senate in Missouri who is running against Sen. Claire McCaskill, justified his opposition to abortion rights even in case of rape with a claim that victims of “legitimate rape” have unnamed biological defenses that prevent pregnancy.

“First of all, from what I understand from doctors [pregnancy from rape] is really rare,” Akin told KTVI-TV in an interview posted Sunday. “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut ...


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Lessons from Dogs...

June 14, 2012


        Yesterday my fiancée and I got a puppy, after very little discussion we both agreed that Oliver was the perfect name for the little guy.  Oliver had been found by my fiancée’s coworker and her boyfriend after having been abandoned.  He was little more than skin and bones when he was found and completely covered in ticks from having been left in a rural area.  We were talking with my fiancée’s coworker and we all wondered what had become of Oliver’s litter mates.  Had they bee...


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The Largest Structure Begins as One Stone...

June 6, 2012

            This is a hugely exciting time for me, as I am starting to see the level of change that The Good Guy, the Bad Guy, and the Ugly Truth has the ability to help create.  A little over a year ago when the EF-5 Tornado hit Joplin, I started a Facebook page which grew into something huge and led to the formation of Acts of Random Kindness.  The stated mission of the organization was to connect victims of natural disasters with temporary and permanent housing as well as help with getting...


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