Over this weekend we held my 20 year class reunion. There were some there I wasn't sure that I cared to see and others absent that I wish had made it. My own pondering about my high school 20 years later is this...
20 years ago we were defined by one characteristic, you were a cool kid, you were a loner, you were in quest, you were whatever. 20 years has passed, and while I noticed some of the same people were still hanging out, we have all grown beyond what group we were in back in high school.
Who we were then was defined by what others thought of us, today we are defined by how we view what we feel we have done with our lives. It was ironic to see the juxtaposition of those who were once envied feeling inferior, or those who once feared the popular people so much being some of those most confident and wandered around both nights talking to everyone.
The best part was the change for the better in most everyone. No matter who you were in high school, no matter what you have done since, it mattered not; you simply were someone who was remembered not for what you were, but as someone for the past to reminisce with. At some point we all became a little of everything, a blend of all the different "definitions" of who someone was back in high school.
Maybe John Hughes was a smarter man than we ever realized. To paraphrase him...
We often see ourselves in comparison to how others once saw us, in convenient definitions. But what we found last night is that each one of us is a brain, and an athlete, and a basket case, a princess, and a criminal.
Posted by Justin Nutt.